Monday, May 12, 2008
Sam's social scene
I wanted to give short update on Sam and how he's doing with the social scene. We have had playdates the last few weeks. These have gone very well from my perspective. Sam has a good time, our guest seems to enjoy himself. I see little conflict beyond what is normal for the age and Sam acts appropriately the entire time. I'm thinking the problems arise when in larger groups and the social cues Sam needs to look for may get lost in the shuffle for him. After talking with his teacher some more I gave permission for Sam to participate in a social group the school psychologist facilitates. I know, I know....that woman, but I made sure it was a group, not just him and I think she does have something to offer and teach him despite my prejudice. This group meets once a week for 30 minutes and consists of 2 children who need some social skills and a "model" peer. Wouldn't you know it one of the kids we have had over for playdates has also been singled out for social ineptitude and is in this little group. Sam was thrilled his friend S. was in playgroup too. So we're taking babysteps and the best news of all...the crying at school has pretty much stopped. There are times over the course of a week where he may cry but not the several times daily that was happening a month ago. And just to brag on my boy...there were two ringleaders in the teasing and the bullying Sam endured, N and T. The other day the children had to choose a buddy to work math games with. Turns out NOBODY wanted to be N's buddy (go figure?). Everyone turned him down. Apparently Sam noticed this and went over and asked N to be his buddy. While I'd rather he worked with a nicer child, I couldn't be more proud. No one has a bigger heart than my Sam.